The healing of a broken heart

Don’t worry I’m not going to take you back to the dreadful time where you felt as if time stood still for a moment and there was a heavy feeling in your heart and you heart was so heavy you could barely shed a tear. I want to talk about healing and looking back in order to go forward (you might want to write that down)

Do you remember the last time you misplaced or lost something and the dreaded questions: ”Where did you last put it or where did you last see it?” (if i knew that we wouldn’t be having this conversation), There is something about that question that causes you to stop in your tracks and think and retrace your steps right to this moment and when you do that you let go of any emotion whether it be irritation or anger and that causes you think and calmly reflect and that’s exactly what I desire us to do through this article.

When the emotions are lifted off; when the hurt, regret, denial and feeling of helplessness fade away and it finally feels like you could put one foot in front of the other and you can finally see the color of the world around us. This is when you should rush to the next relationship?-Don’t even think about it- The problem with a rebound is exactly that, dating someone while you still in pain forgetting that you would heal and when you eventually do you find out they are nothing like you and now you resort to constantly hurting each other to get back into what made the sparks fly (of cause all of this is subconscious .

When you finally feel that you can breathe this is the best time to trace your steps and see not what they did wrong but how you overlooked the red flags if present or how we were assisting in the distraction of the relationship (write that down too), you must quickly realize that you are the common denominator in your relationships. You must look at the journey before the attraction. I want to stress that looking back is a journey of love and healing. In the process of reflection, its not about beating yourself up, its not about you should’ve known, you were stupid and you’ll never love again rather its a journey of lets give myself another chance and the road of healing

Time doesn’t heal it hardens. Raise your hand if you’ve heard the term -time heals wounds. I don’t mean to be barer of bad news but if you leave anything unattended over a long period of time it deteriorates think about you car or the dishes in the sink. Scratches heal over time because your body is actively at work in the healing process. If you leave your broken heart unattended over time you will have a heart of stone and proceed to either not believe in love or believe that you deserve it and unfortunately it will be the people around you that will have to suffer the consequences.

I leave you with these three things:

1. Let go of what was
2. Heal
3. Give yourself time