any thing you say or do will be misquoted and used against you

Most of us by now know the Miranda, say it with me ”You have the right to remain silent, anything you say or do will be used against you in the court of law..” well at least I know the first part but in this post I want us to dive deeper than the Miranda and remind ourselves that we have the right to remain silent- that is to shut up the voice nagging in our heads telling us how weak and pathetic we are.

we know it all too well, just when applications are open for a certain position, or you are given a platform to speak then that voice comes up ”what if you fail”, ”You kidding right, you are not good enough I mean if she couldn’t do it how could you” or the classic favorite ”You are going to look like an idiot if you fail at this”. Let me ask you this, if that voice- the one in your head- was in human form would you be friends with it? Would you make friends with a person who constantly and consistently tells you that you are not meant to be unique, not meant to push anymore boundaries, not meant to pursue the lifestyle that you know will benefit you? Would you really be friends with someone who when you at the edge of the cliff knowing you are either about to spread your wings and fly or land on you feet tells you not to fly, tells you that your wings aren’t strong if present and you feet are fragile- would you really? Then why do we allow a voice in our heads to draw the line on our limitless possibility?

”The voice inside you heard is someone else who sounds like you”- anonymous.

To silence this voice we must first understand why it exists, because of our diverse religious belief I will not refer to a specific or any deity/ demon for that matter, I’ll give you a logical explanation. Our minds were designed to protect us- from danger and anything that can harm us whether it be physically, emotionally or psychological. Whatever is threat to our physical health our brain responds with pain the greater the threat the greater the pain (don’t ask me about period pains I also don’t know) but when something could harm us emotionally and status wise our brains respond in fear. Here’s the catch though, your brain knows how to warn you with voices that remind you of your previous failures and weaknesses all in a bid to put you out of harms way but will you take the risk to override the programming, silence that voice and do it anyway, could you be that daring, could you be that bold, could you be that badass?

I don’t have a formula for how to silence the voice in your head, I can’t give you a fail proof method to once and for all silence the voice, but I can tell you this: when you look at the pattern of the voice you will start to realize that that voice can only tell you, your past failures, your mistakes and you weakness but it can never tell you your potential, your strength, your faith. I suggest you do this: every time you are in a frenzy or about to accept the platform, hand in the application and say yes and that voice comes when it reminds you of your mistakes say out-loud the lessons you learnt from those mistakes, when it reminds your weaknesses say out-loud your strengths, when it lets you know of everyone against you shout out-loud who is on your side and lastly when it says you not good enough, complete the sentence for it and say ”Yes, I am not good enough for failure and fear but honey I’m more than enough for success and expanding my territory.