-Starting over from a catastrophic collapse (part 1)

What happens when something you’ve been working on wholeheartedly comes crashing down, it could be anything a job, a marriage, family,company, health well what about self esteem- i guess you didn’t think about that. ”It’s not my fault” we say ” I did my best” we cry out but did you really? What if you built a gold wall on a foundation of straw or a wall of straw on a foundation of gold? Either way there is collapse and you ought to rebuild.

Bare with me as I use the analogy of the construction of a house that had previously collapsed in phases to convey this message better.

Phase 1 – demolition

This process isn’t sexy at all. As you would imagine there is dust, debris and a lot hopelessness. In whatever we give ourselves to that now seemingly is falling apart. It seems as if its an endless series of events that keeps happening until whatever it is that we lived for is no more- I call this demolition. Taking everything of whats left, you wanna know why? so that you don’t cling onto the pseudomemories or the very selective ones (the one wall of the building which wasn’t even pretty and was badly designed but because its a remainder of what was once was) you know what I’m talking about- Missing the ex and overlooking how his breath gave you headaches, missing the 9-5 even though you were treated as though you didn’t matter and sulking over the business clinging onto the selective memories of when it did work which was about 2% of the time. In the process and in the pre-construction phase tearing down and demolition is all the more necessary. The ability to unlearn and to relearn is crucial for survival, if one does not take down the old unprofitable ways or demolish the remaining walls it will hinder the new knowledge or the new building.

Phase 2- clean up/ clear up

After uprooting and putting down what was no good we proceed to prepare the area for a new build. The clean up process is heart sickening it seems as if everything you worked on over the years has perished , it seems as though you destroying the very evidence of your diligence and work ethic. What we as the human race forget ever so often is that whatever we achieve is the fruit of our hard work, education, patience and perseverance and not the root of it. See our education and our work ethic are embedded in the mind even thought the proof/evidence/fruit of it can be lost the root which is the mind is never lost thus we have the capacity to build again. After clearing up the land you will be able to see clearly and be able to envision a rebuild