-Becoming

In my previous blog I wrote about reflecting on who you used to be to give you an insight on who you have become and also give answers to some of the reasons for your fears and bad decisions. In this blog post I want us to explore the concept of ”becoming” while making a commitment to your older self

Becoming ”The possibility of change in a thing that already has being”- Wikipedia. I would like you to note that being is something that has already is in its state and cannot be changed but when we transcend to becoming we are now no longer talking about the present but are talking about the future but most importantly we are talking about a process. See becoming doesn’t happen overnight and it doesn’t need your control. Let me remind you about an awkward phase in life called puberty, puberty was a process of becoming an adult and for most people it took around six or even seven years and it wasn’t controlled by you, it was a conversation that happened in you brain and signaled that you were ready, it didn’t happen because all your friends had already gone into puberty nor was it sent into action because of your anxiety it didn’t succumb to any pressure because the instruction was to have a final product of a unique individual. This is the point I want to drive home, the process of becoming who you ought to be, who you are purposed to be is just for you and is a process, that doesn’t happen over night, it is a process that is independent of other’s achievements. Whether others have started on the process or not doesn’t influence your process or outcome (life is not a pie but a ever-flowing stream), rather the process of becoming is set around your purpose and the final destination which just like puberty is usually unknown until the late teens and what that usually means is that its out of your control but it can only start happening once you are ready? One may ask but how do you know you are ready? Turns out I got you covered.

Well unlike puberty which does not care to ask if you ready but just happens, the process of becoming is a choice. It involves questions such as: Are you ready to let go of all you’ve come to know about who you are in pursuit to redefine who you will be? Are you willing to trust the process? Are you willing to be in a position of not having answers and not knowing? Are you willing to go through the discomfort of outgrowing your shell and laying down old habits? Most people want to succeed, most people want to be the best possible versions of themselves but very few are willing to endure the process because it isn’t glamorous. In fact at a certain extent it looks like the process of dying.

Planting a seed and burying a corpse look very similar, they both go underground in a dark environment and both of them are not seem for a period of time, both are in pretty much subjected to the same environment but guess what the other will decay and the other will produce life and that in summary is the process of becoming.

But the title talked about writing a letter? Yes I did mention a letter and in this one, its not about finding faults in the past self but rather its a letter of commitment, commitment to the process. Its a letter where you get to tell you future self what you commit to becoming what you wantt him/her to look back and be proud of and thereafter living each day to trust the process and put effort into becoming

Becoming- ”The possibility of a change in a thing that has being or that exists”