–Details of the subconscious

I’m sure you have heard of the subconscious mind and the power that it bears, if you haven’t let me inform you.

Our subconscious mind develops before our conscious mind and unlike our conscious mind it cannot separate right from wrong, what is real from what is unreal ( that’s why dreams feel so real) and what is true from what is false. Our subconscious mind interprets our thoughts and our emotions concerning those thoughts as true. Our subconscious has the power to embed and transcend our thoughts into reality. Allow me to explain, If you grew up in a household were the were frequently arguments and fights concerning money and the mere thought of asking for money had you in fear, your subconscious mind then associated money with unhappiness and figured that in order to be happy you must eliminate the potential of any chance of wealth and guess who grew up never having enough money, and any money that was left over ended up being splurged because in your eyes money was never a tool but a cause of unhappiness.

Any thing experienced especially before the age seven entered your subconscious mind and was kept for memory and kept for creating your future reality, now what happens if all you were ever exposed to at that tender age was brokenness, abuse, ill treatment, and never being enough? The unfortunate truth is that you carry that out into your entire life seeking healing and validation because your conscious mind identifies an error but your subconscious doesn’t and keeps on perpetuating the brokenness around you because it knows no error. That is why in your head it would be logical to not be in an abusive relationship because you know you are worth more but because it was never corrected in your subconscious you will find yourself going back over and over again because although you know better, you don’t believer better and its already been programmed into your head that the closest thing that resembles romantic love is abuse. But there is hope.

The title of this blog is about writing a letter to your younger self but precisely it is about correcting the errors in your subconscious ”blueprint” when you didn’t know better. Warning this is about to be a ”therapy” session. Often at times we find the idea of reflection quite cheesy when in actual fact it could save your live. When you intentionally choose to sit down and have a moment in silence and ask the questions ” what did I learn about money from my family in my childhood and how has that impacted my financial life” and ”what did I learn about relationships from those closest to me, did what i learn distort my image of men or women”? If we answer those questions quite honestly we will slowly see the reason for our behavior and actions.

The letter to your younger self is not only about apologizing but its actually about asking questions. In your younger self state you hold so many answers to where we are now and why. This letter should consist of vital questions questions like ” Why did this type of person interest you romantically to the point of avoiding reason” and most importantly ” Who did you want to be before you knew about all the limitations and challenges. who did you want to be when you believed everything was possible”furthermore ”At what point did you lose your voice and believed that your opinion didn’t matter and thus classified yourself as shy?”

In the letters that you write yourself its in your best interest to be honest as possible, there might be some anger or even some tears but that is the process of erasing the program that was engraved in your mind in your most vulnerable state.